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New Year, New Goals II

Holy cow – it’s 2016. I know we’re two weeks in now, but it still hasn’t set in for me yet. Around this time last year I wrote a post called New Year, New Goals, and I thought it would be fun to look back on my goals from last year and set some new ones for this year. These were my goals from 2015 and how I did with them:

1. Floss. – Well, lets just say that I’m still on my dentist’s naughty list. This one is going back on the goal list for 2016.

2. Read more. – I read/listened to a lot of books this year! Some of my favorites were the Cormoran Strike novels by Robert Galbraith (AKA J.K. Rowling), Bossypants by Tina Fey, and Eleanor & Park by Rainbow Rowell.  This goal definitely help me rekindle my love of reading. Actually, I loved this goal so much that I’m keeping a version of it.

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3. Run in a few fun races. – Womp, womp. I did not run in any races this year! I walked in a turkey trot on Thanksgiving, but no running. I think this is a good example of not making my goal specific enough. This one is going back on the list, but I’ve made some progress already.

4. Clean for 20-30 minutes each day. – I would say I did OK with this goal. There’s room for improvement, but overall I did a better job of spreading out tasks so that I didn’t end up with a DEFCON 1 cleaning situation.

5. Be a supportive spouse. – Obviously, this is a goal that has no stopping point, but Derek and I feel great about the past year. It wasn’t the easiest year with him interviewing and me continuing to work a difficult job, but we both felt supported and happy with each other despite the craziness going on around us. It is such a blessing to know that whatever changes come our way this year, we’re in it together.

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And now for my updated goals for 2016 . . .

1. Floss. – I am determined to have amazing gums!! (<– This is an example of things I think to myself but perhaps shouldn’t blog to the world. Oh well.) I already ordered some floss picks to make it a little easier. (My teeth are REALLY close together.) I’ve flossed 4 times this week; I just need to keep it up!

2. Run the Tarheel 10 Miler in the spring and a half marathon in the fall. – I signed up for the 10 miler on New Year’s Day, and I have my training plan on the calendar. BOOM. DONE. Now I just have to actually train . . .

I’ll wait to sign up for a half once I know where I’m living in the fall. It’s weird to think that I could be signing up for a half marathon in New York or Ohio or Alabama. It will be a good way to get to know my new home if we end up moving this summer.

3. Read 4 nonfiction books. – As mentioned above, my reading goal from last year worked wonders. However, I ended up reading fiction books almost exclusively. I really enjoy nonfiction, so I want to incorporate more of that genre this year. I think my first pick will be Sisters in Law by Linda Hirshman. As mentioned previously on the BNP, I’m a fan of the Notorious RBG.

4. Say “yes” more. This is something I started working on a few months ago, and it’s gone well thus far. I have a tendency to be a bit of a homebody, especially since I started working. I’ve always been an introvert, but the addition of working with people all day, and most often people who are facing serious illness and major changes to their lives, made me want to spend more time alone at home. And sometimes, that’s what I need – but I started staying home too much and felt like I was missing out. I’ve found that if I push myself a bit, I end up having a lot fun. My mid-2os are the perfect time to work on self awareness and finding that delicate balance between having memorable experiences and knowing when I need downtime.

5. Stay flexible and open-minded. As I mentioned in my previous post, Derek and I are facing many changes this year, including the possibility of a long-distance move in June. I am a planner, and it’s hard not knowing much about our future. Instead of stressing out about the uncertainty, I want to reframe it as an opportunity to work on being more flexible and open-minded.

Thanks for reading about my goals. I’d love to hear about some of yours, too. I hope that everyone is in for a happy, healthy 2016!

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New Year, New Goals

Can you believe it’s 2015?! As usual, it will take me until about March before I get used to writing “15” at the end of the date. If you read my year in review post, you know that it was a crazy year for me. Between getting married, graduating, and starting my first job last year, I decided that 2015 is a year for low-key goals. Without further ado, here are my goals for 2015:

1. Floss. I know, this one is just waaaaay too exciting. 😉 I’m terrible about flossing though, and I dream of the day when I’m not scolded at the dentist’s office. Is that sad or what?

2. Read more. I love watching my favorite TV shows, but sometimes I end up watching random stuff just because I’m bored. I also love to read, but the convenience of flipping on the TV often wins out. Instead of mindlessly watching shows, I want to pick up a book more often. I’m even considering following along with NPR’s book club the Morning Edition Reads. (I ❤ NPR.)

3. Run in a few fun races. After the let down of training for a half marathon last fall, I decided to focus on having fun with running shorter distances this year. The first race I’m looking at is a St. Patrick’s Day race that includes a Kilt Run and free beer after the race.

4. Clean for 20-30 minutes each day. I started doing this over the past couple weeks, and it makes a HUGE difference. The house looks better, and I spend less time cleaning on the weekend. It’s a win-win!

5. Be a supportive spouse. This is my most important goal for 2015. It’s going to be a BIG year for Derek. This summer he will decide what specialty he wants to pursue, and he’ll start applying for residency programs. He also takes his Step 2 exam and will travel for interviews in the fall. It will be a stressful, exciting time, and I know that I will need to be there for him more than ever. Derek was wonderful and supportive through my crazy 2014, and I’m glad that will be able to focus on supporting him more this year.

The One You Feed {Fun Friday}

Happy Friday!! What. A. Week. Whew! Between being sick (bad head cold) and my intense patient caseload, I am pumped that the week is over. I’m also glad to be blogging again. Things got so crazy that I haven’t posted this week. I figured a Fun Friday post would be the perfect way to kick back into gear with Brown is the New Pink. If you don’t already know, when I have tough weeks at work I like to post pictures, videos, or stories that make me smile or laugh. It helps me separate myself from work, and I’m hopeful that it helps other people who just need to smile or laugh, too. Let’s get to it . . .


Can you believe how cold it’s gotten?

I am in BIG trouble if Derek and I have to move up north for his residency.

I should warn you that the next video has the potential to make you cry. Patrick Otema, 15, lives in a remote area of Uganda and was born deaf. There are no schools for people who are deaf, and he has never been able to have a conversation with others. However, Raymond Okkelo hopes to change this for Otema and other people who are deaf by teaching them sign language.

The way Patrick lights up at the end is one of the most heartwarming things I’ve seen in a long time. It was definitely a reminder for me to be mindful of my privilege as someone who doesn’t have any disabilities. I’m ashamed to say I’ve never even thought about how people would learn sign language in areas that don’t have schools for the deaf. The video also reminded me to be thankful for the gift of communication and language. It’s certainly something I take for granted.

Switching gears to something funny, I love this album of pictures about married life. I’m still a newlywed (8 months strong!), but I can already relate to these pictures, especially since my husband is quite the goofball.

Next up is a clip from Saturday Night Live. Jim Carrey impersonates Matthew McConaughey in his Lincoln commercials.

I laughed so hard when I saw this for the first time. “Whose kids are these? And how’d they get in my Lincoln?” Haha!

Finally I will wrap this post up with the fable below.

And with that I choose to feed the good wolf. Enjoy your weekend!!

A Tale of Two Love Stories {Fun Friday}

Happy Friday, friends! It’s been a hot minute since I made a Fun Friday post, and I think it’s time for some pictures, videos, and stories that made me smile or laugh lately. I hope they bring a smile to your face, too!

Let’s kick things off with the case of the cat and the “empty” food bowl.

It’s funny how peculiar animals are about certain things. My parents’ dog Scooter will not turn around on the hardwood floors (likely because he’s scared of slipping). It’s hilarious to watch him slowly back away when he wants to leave the kitchen. What a goober.

Next up is a video of an English bulldog riding a motorcycle who waves to a passing biker ON HER OWN. The dog waves first without prompting from her owner. I had to watch it twice to make sure.

You totally thought I was making that one up, didn’t you? 🙂

On to another video. I am a big fan of Key & Peele, and they recently released a new sketch about text messaging. (**Warning: harsh language is used in the video.)

That’s definitely one of those “I’m-laughing-because-it’s-true” videos. Making people laugh is a talent in itself, but it’s even more impressive that Key and Peele are able to mix humor and social commentary so well.

To wrap things up, I’ll share two love stories. The first is a post from Humans of New York. The couple in the photo share the story of the beginning of their 50+ year relationship. It’s a sweet and funny story.

The second is a video of the first marriage ceremony for a same-sex couple in North Carolina.

Last Friday, October 10th, a federal judge ruled that North Carolina’s gay marriage ban was unconstitutional. I watched the marriage in the video happen live on TV. It was a beautiful, and I felt blessed to witness such a significant moment in history.

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Derek and I saw these flags on Franklin Street in Chapel Hill when were on our way to church. The town put them up to commemorate the momentous ruling.

Hope you have a fantastic weekend!!!

Where We Love Is Home

It’s been a great weekend! I’m thankful that I was able to spend time with my family and be here for my grandpa’s 90th birthday. I head back to North Carolina tonight, and I know I’ll be a little sad when I leave. I wish we lived closer to each other. However, in many ways, I am lucky to have two places to call home. Even though I don’t like leaving my parents, brother, and grandparents, I get to go home to my new family with Derek. Though it means I leave a little bit of my heart in another state, I’m blessed to have so much love in my life.

“Where we love is home, home that our feet may leave, but not our hearts.”  – Oliver Wendell Holmes

Wedding {Part 1}: Getting Ready

I cannot believe over 2 months have passed since Derek and I got married. We got married on March 15th, 2014 in Lexington, Kentucky. We received our wedding pictures from Aaron Stringer Photography on Friday, and we’ve loved re-living our wedding day through the photos. It was definitely the best day of my life, and I’m excited to share some of the pictures and memories.

First up is THE dress. Though I don’t consider myself to be a very stylish person, I would most likely describe my style as new classic. I love elegant, classic looks that have been slightly updated. For my wedding dress that meant timeless lace with a more modern trumpet shape and keyhole back. My dress was made by Allure Bridals, and I purchased it at Bridal Boutique of North Carolina. I also had my alterations done there, including adding on the belt, and they did a great job.

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Next up are my garter and earrings. I purchased both of these on Etsy, and they are beautiful. The garter, which also came with an unpictured toss garter, came from LucyBridalBoutique. The earrings are rose gold, and they’re from Poetry Jewelry. I also purchased my veil, which you will see in later pictures, from Melinda Rose Design on Etsy. It is a very simple, but elegant fingertip length tulle veil.

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If you’re planning a wedding, I suggest checking out Etsy for your accessories. There is a lot of variety, and the products tend to be more affordable.

My (Carolina blue) shoes can be seen in the photo below. Derek and I met at UNC Chapel Hill during undergrad, I recently graduated with my MSW from UNC, and Derek is currently in medical school at UNC. Needless to say, Carolina has been a huge part of our relationship, so I paid homage to our school with my shoes. 🙂  I purchased them from Fan Feet. They have shoes from tons of different schools if your interested.

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The heel was about 4 inches, which is quite high for me. However, I loved the shoes, and Derek is a foot taller than me at 6’4″ so the extra height helped with pictures. I planned ahead and switched into more comfortable dancing shoes at the reception. It worked out well.

My bridesmaids, my mom, and I got our hair done at my mom’s regular salon. I wore my hair in a low, soft up-do that fit the romantic nature of the dress and showed off the keyhole back. My bridesmaids all chose to wear their hair half up-half down, which looked great. After getting our hair done, Trish from Image Insight came to do our make up at my parents’ house. She did a fantastic job! If you’re in the Lexington area, I highly recommend her services.

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It was my first time wearing false eyelashes, and they were awesome!

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Three of my gorgeous bridesmaids. From left to right: Katy, Jenna, and Logan.

While we were putting on the finishing touches, Derek and the groomsmen were trying to figure out the mystery of how to tie a bow tie.

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With the help of YouTube, they figured it out. At this point the photographers took some pictures of Derek on his own. He looked unbelievably handsome. I am so lucky. 🙂

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In typical wedding day fashion, the ladies and I were running a bit behind, but it was finally time to put on the dress. My mom helped me put it on, which was a special moment for both of us.

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At this point we headed to the church to start the bridal portraits. First I have to show off Trish’s make up job. It was gorgeous.

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Below is Derek’s favorite picture.

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I love the drama of this next shot. The red doors of the church made for an awesome backdrop.

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Below is probably my favorite portrait shot.

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I don’t think I’ve ever felt more beautiful than I did on our wedding day. Besides the make up and hair, which were fantastic, I was  so full of joy that I think it showed through in the pictures. That inner glow is even more apparent after I see Derek. In my next wedding post I’ll share the pictures from our first look and wedding party portraits. The first look photos are my favorite pictures from the entire day because they’re so genuine. I can’t wait to share them!

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